Tips for Settling Your Child into Childcare

Starting childcare is a big step—for both tamariki and their parents. At Te Ōki Early Learning, we know how emotional that first goodbye can be. Some children jump right in, while others take time to feel comfortable—and that’s absolutely okay.

We’re here to walk alongside you through this transition, helping your child build trust, confidence, and a strong sense of belonging. Below are some simple and supportive tips we’ve found helpful for easing into this new chapter together.

1. Visit the Centre Before the First Day

We always encourage families to spend time at the centre before your child’s first official day. These visits allow your child to explore the space, meet their teachers, and get familiar with the environment—while you’re close by. Even short, relaxed visits can help make everything feel more familiar and less overwhelming.

2. Be Flexible

Settling looks different for every child. If you’re able, starting with shorter days can be a gentle way to ease into the new routine. We’re happy to work with you to create a transition plan that suits your child’s needs.

At the end of the day, pick-up time is a great moment to reconnect. Feel free to spend a few minutes playing with your child, looking at their artwork, or chatting with a teacher. It helps strengthen the link between home and centre and gives your child a calm, positive finish to their day.

3. Meet Your Child’s Special Teacher

At Te Ōki, every child has a Special Teacher—a kaiako who is there to support your child (and you!) through their transition and beyond. This teacher becomes your main point of contact and builds a close, trusting relationship with your child.

We often ensure this teacher is there at drop-off and pick-up times, and sometimes we buddy up so there’s always a familiar face to greet and farewell your child. We place high value on this role because we know how vital it is for children to feel emotionally secure and deeply known by the people around them.

4. Make Goodbyes Short and Reassuring

Saying goodbye can be tough—but a simple, consistent routine can really help. A hug, a wave, and a reminder that you’ll be back is often all your child needs to feel reassured.

If you'd like to spend more time with your child at the centre, pick-up time is a lovely, relaxed part of the day to do that. You’re welcome to join your child in play, check out what they’ve been up to, and reconnect before heading home together.

5. Offer Reassurance—Comfort Items Are Welcome at Rest Times

While we don’t encourage comfort items throughout the day (they can get lost or limit your child’s ability to join in), we completely understand their value during sleep or rest times. If your child has a special blanket or soft toy that helps them feel calm during downtime, they’re more than welcome to bring it along.

6. Talk About What to Expect (and What They’ve Done!)

Before they start, talk to your child about what they might see and do: “You’ll get to play with toys, listen to stories, and eat yummy morning tea.” Keep it light and positive.

Once they’ve started, you can use our online platform to look at photos and videos of their day together at home. It’s a great way to build connection and help your child process their experiences. You can also use the platform to share photos or updates from home—like birthday celebrations or weekend outings—which we love to acknowledge and talk about at the centre.

7. Build a Strong Relationship with Your Child’s Kaiako

When your child sees you connecting positively with their teachers, it helps them feel safe and supported. That trust between parents and kaiako is so important—it tells your child, “These are people who care about me.”

The more we get to know your child through your insights, the more we can respond in ways that are meaningful to them. Open communication helps us create a truly nurturing environment where your child feels seen, heard, and valued.

8. Trust the Process—We’ll Go at Your Child’s Pace

Transitions take time, and we’ll never rush your child into something they’re not ready for. At Te Ōki, we take a flexible, responsive approach and adapt to each child's pace.

You can trust that your child’s wellbeing is always at the centre of everything we do. We will never let a child remain upset for long periods. If something isn’t working, we’ll let you know and work with you to find a better way. You’re not alone—we’re a team, and we’re in this together.

Final Thoughts

Settling into childcare isn’t just about separation—it’s about building trust, connection, and confidence. With patience, support, and open communication, most children settle beautifully and begin to thrive in their new environment.

At Te Ōki Early Learning, we’re honoured to walk this journey with you. We’re here to celebrate the little wins, hold space for the tricky moments, and help your child feel truly at home.